Let it go and focus on the good!

February 24, 2017

“May you be strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy” Colossians 1:11, ESV.

He never takes me out
He doesn’t help out around the house
He never listens to me
He is always spending time with his friends
He never apologizes
He doesn’t make me feel appreciated

In being married for years and in counseling women, I have heard it all. I have said it all, and I’ve found the list can go on and on.

One day while trying to patch up a broken marriage, I told the wife to write down everything her husband was doing wrong. Her page was covered, front and back, with a long list of things. Then, I asked her to write down everything he’s doing right. It took her a long time to think of just one.

We can’t focus on the good when there’s unforgiveness in our hearts.

I remember one day I struggled to pray. Right in the middle of my prayer, I sensed unforgiveness in my heart and without much thought, I said, “Lord, I forgive my husband.” The moment I forgave him, I felt a release in my heart. Then God gave me the grace to love him and be patient with him. God sees and He knows when you have unforgiveness and resentment in your heart, and He won’t release His grace until you release your unforgiveness. It’s time to let go of all the hurt and disappointment you’ve been holding on to. It’s not worth your relationship with God, and it’s not worth your relationship with those you care about.

Instead of thinking all day on what your husband is doing wrong, think about what he is doing right.

He is a hard worker
He does what he can to help around the house
He has a relationship with God
He calls me to see how I’m doing
He lets me have the last slice of pie
He is trying to do better

Let it go and focus on the good.

Prayer: Father God, I thank you for speaking directly to my heart. Forgive me Lord as I forgive others. I let go of all unforgiveness, resentment and offense, and I receive your grace, your peace and your love. Help me learn how to communicate what’s bothering me, and be patient. Help me focus on the good. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

(Read Philippians 4:8)


Receive God’s Help!

February 23, 2017

“And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Helper, to be with you forever, even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees him nor knows him. You know him, for he dwells with you and will be in you” John 14:16-17, ESV.

Lift your eyes to the hills from where your help comes from. Your help comes from the Lord. He is your helper. When you’re on the verge of breaking down, and you have no one else to call, Holy Spirit is your helper. You are not helpless. You are not without support. But it’s up to you to receive the help the Father has provided to you. When you call on Him, the Spirit of God will come to your aid; He will mightily rush to your rescue. He will help you lift your hands in worship. He will help you sustain under pressure without breaking. He will help you seize every single promise that’s been made to you. He will help you breakthrough. Don’t refuse God’s help. Don’t sit there as though you don’t need His help. Jesus told His disciples it is expedient (or profitable) for you that I go away. He told them He would send another Comforter, who is the Holy Spirit, and He would abide with us forever. He would guide us into all truth and show us things to come. Receive the help of the Holy Spirit of God! Receive the help of the Holy Spirit of God! Receive the help of the Holy Spirit of God! There will never be a moment when you do not need Him. Reach up and reach out your hands and say, “Holy Ghost! Lift me up! Holy Ghost! Fill my cup! Holy Spirit of God, set me free! Holy Spirit of God, strengthen me!”

Prayer: Yes, Lord! I receive the help of your precious Holy Spirit. I need your help. I can’t make it without you. I can’t do anything without you. But with you, nothing’s impossible. So I cry out, Holy Ghost heal me, strengthen me, set me free and help me to persevere by faith. Thank you Father for sending your Holy Spirit. He is precious to me. I receive His help now and forever. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

(Read John 16:7-15)