“Know ye that the LORD he is God: it is he that hath made us, and not we ourselves; we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture.” Psalms 100:3
Perfectionism controlled my life. I wanted to be the perfect person, do a perfect job, and have the perfect life. Living this way almost destroyed me because I placed unrealistic expectations on myself and on everyone around me. We are not infallible or incapable of making mistakes. We will miss it from time to time and when we do the enemy uses the greatest tool in his arsenal, condemnation. He will make the perfectionist almost lose their mind when they fail. To break free, God has to renew your mind and show you His mind on the matter. It is not perfection that He wants. He wants people that will stay yielded to Him. The apostle Paul said it perfectly when he said, “We are the circumcision, we worship God in the spirit, we rejoice in Christ Jesus and we have no confidence in the flesh”. Perfectionism causes you to put confidence in the flesh, in what you can do. It frustrates the grace of God big time. We are to draw everything we need from the life of Jesus within us. A legalistic and self-righteous mindset will ruin any relationship because the same unrealistic expectations you place on yourself will be the same unrealistic expectations you will place on others. No marriage is perfect, no church is perfect, no friendship is perfect, and when you expect it, you set yourself up for great disappointment. You could clean a car through and through, but if anyone was to look under the hood of that car they would find a greasy mess. That’s just like our lives. You have to accept your strengths and your weaknesses, learn to love yourself and others unconditionally, don’t place unfair demands on yourself or others, be patient with your growth, and give yourself and others room to grow. When you make a mistake, know that it doesn’t change God’s love for you. He doesn’t love you because you are perfect, He loves you because you are His. Don’t strive to be perfect, seek to stay yielded to Him.
Prayer: Father, I pray that You renew my mind and help break any religious or prideful ways off of my life. Make me what You want me to be. When I miss it, help me love on myself rather than condemn and offend myself. Help me learn to be my own bestfriend rather than my worst enemy. I choose to stay yielded to You. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
(Read Philippians 3:3)