devotions

Stop blaming yourself.

February 15, 2019

“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven” Luke 6:37, NIV.

One of the worst things any woman can experience is guilt from knowing she wasn’t the kind of mother she needed to be for her children. She can think to herself, “If only I would have been a better mother, my children would not be the way they are today.” I’ve seen guilt-ridden mothers refuse to live their life because of their past failures. As if the bitter resentment of their children isn’t enough, these women punish themselves by refusing to be happy, healthy and enjoy their lives.

The truth is, everyone has been given by God the freedom to choose how they will live their life. No one goes to hell because their mother was a bad mother. What sends us to an eternity in hell is our own personal rejection of Jesus. We are responsible for our lives and how we choose to live them despite the mistakes of our parents.

It is time for mothers to forgive themselves and go on to enjoy the rest of their days on this earth. It is also time for grown children to forgive their parents for what they did or didn’t do, and accept responsibility for their own life choices.

Prayer: Father God, I ask that you heal the heart of every mother who is blaming herself for her children’s mistakes. Minister healing to her heart and give her a new life in you. Don’t let her spend the rest of her days punishing herself for something she can do nothing about. Help her to move on and be happy, healthy and enjoy the life you’ve given her. Help adult children everywhere to accept responsibility for the life choices they’ve made and receive you as their Savior and Lord. Give us a heart that can forgive our parents for their mistakes and love them. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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12 Comments

  • Reply Sherita February 15, 2019 at 5:35 am

    Good morning thank you for this word this morning. Years I used to do this to myself. Sometimes the thoughts pop up but I have asked God to keep me no matter what is going on in my head.

    • Reply Norma February 20, 2019 at 7:12 am

      Amen To That!!!

    • Reply Marilyn April 6, 2019 at 11:30 pm

      I thank everyday for never leaving me nor faking me. He brought me a long ways. Even after all these years I never thought I did enough. But this message is just what I needed.

  • Reply Paige February 15, 2019 at 8:07 am

    Thank You Lord for healing my heart and my childrens heart !
    Amen!
    #ILOVEYOULORD
    #ILOVEYOUALL

  • Reply Carissa Dugas February 15, 2019 at 9:30 am

    Wow! Thank you for this! I just posted something about forgiveness of self!! We have to forgive ourselves and know that we can not blame ourselves for others decisions. Let yourself off the hook and live. Forgiveness is the key!! Amen.

  • Reply Melissa Lewis February 15, 2019 at 12:07 pm

    I’m not a mother, but I need to stop being guilt-ridden and blaming myself for my divorce 10 years ago. I was very sick for 8 years, and he just couldn’t take it anymore. I couldn’t help the person i was when i was sick. I didn’t know, because I was mentally ill. In hindsight i learned a lot from the marriage. But the divorce is tearing me apart. I just need to stop. Thank you for this morning’s devotional.

    • Reply Rose Barraza February 19, 2019 at 3:24 pm

      Let it go and let God be your man first♥️He loves you and will send u some one who deserves you !!! God Bless u and me too😄

  • Reply R.J Walk By Faith ❤🌷❤🌷❤🌷 February 15, 2019 at 1:26 pm

    Amen Love this Devotional for mother’s and fathers both the past is the past and our adult children to forgive their parents and choose to live the right life for there self and for the mothers and fathers both to have a healthy relationship God is a forgiving God and we do not judge anyone respect mothers and fathers no matter what I thank God that I was raised by a good parents and grandparents but we pray for this generation right here and we do not judge we continue to pray for one another with love God continue to bless his ministry. THANK YOU GOD

  • Reply Levitta February 15, 2019 at 1:55 pm

    Thank you for this post. I’m constantly reflecting on my mothering…I have adult children and I beat myself up for what I could have, should have or would have and it’s so self defeating and dead end. I ask God’s forgiveness and over compensate with my adult daughter and grandchildren…. This post is so true, now to act.

  • Reply Lynne February 16, 2019 at 8:08 am

    Thank you sister for this word..I have beaten myself up for a long time for my past mistakes as a mother. I am so thankful to have been coming to see, as I have repented, because of Jesus, I’m forgiven. I have repented to my children and am truly learning to live in that place of my Father’s forgiveness. Thank you Jesus for Your Grace! ( Your unmerited favor) 💜

  • Reply Barbara Finch March 3, 2019 at 11:28 am

    Our God is an awesome God

  • Reply Shorty4783 March 27, 2019 at 4:25 pm

    I am SOOO there rite NOW❗
    &THE PAIN IS JUST BEYOND BELIEF❗❗❗ITZ THE WORST PAIN I’VE EVER EXPERIENCED&ITZ JUST KILLING ME SLOOOWLY❗
    ON TOP OF THAT I DON’T EVEN HAV MY CHILDREN WITH ME 4 THE PAST FEW Yrz…I’VE BEEN PRAYIN SOOO HARD, BUT LIKE IT SAYZ, I FEEL LIKE IF I LET IT GO&JUST BE HAPPY…SOME HOW I’M SAYING IT’S OK⁉️ PLZ FATHER FORGIVE ME&HELP ME GET OVER THIS…❤PLEASE❤AMEN❗

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