This phrase comes from a Bible verse which says, “It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop than to share a house with a disagreeing, quarrelsome, and scolding woman.” (Proverbs 25:24 – AMP) In other words, a woman is said to be behaving like a “rooftop woman” when her husband would much rather live on the roof than inside the house with her. While we all have that one thing that can cause us to experience frustration and agitation, in these moments, we have to choose to not let our emotions get the best of us. We have to ask ourselves, “Is it really that serious?” And if it is a serious situation that really bothers us, then we have to pray for God to guide our tongue and our actions in a way of love that will not cause emotional, verbal, or physical harm to our spouse. Remember that love does no harm. When we are slamming doors, stomping around the house, holding silent treatments, throwing dishes, giving mean looks, withholding sex, calling up all of our friends to vent and talk negative about our spouse, this is all rooftop behavior. We must grow up and be the women God has called us to be. We can do it! We can lose the negative attitude, we can stop being difficult, we can stop being stubborn, we can stop repelling those we love the most with childish behavior. God wants us to be the kind of woman that a man looks forward to coming home to. To where he would rather be no where else, and with no one else, then with his wife. This transformation from being a rooftop woman to a loving and peaceful wife is not impossible. God can help us have a right attitude, manage our emotions properly, and be an agent of peace in the home rather than a woman of war.
“But let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, which [is not anxious or wrought up, but] is very precious in the sight of God.” 1 Peter 3:4 (AMP)
Help me not to be a rooftop woman. Show me how to open up when something is bothering me and speak the truth in a way that will not cause harm to my husband. I want to be the kind of woman that is peaceful, that draws my husband close rather than repel him away. I pray Your blessing over my marriage and I receive Your peace today and Your strength as I grow into being the kind of woman that pleases You. In Jesus Name, Amen.
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