“I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me.” Song of Solomon 7:10, NIV.
When it came time to choose who I would marry, I remember pleading with God to speak to me. I wanted Him to speak with lightening in His voice and with many waters, “Kesha, marry this one!” In my mind, I had three options: The guy I had known since middle school who my mother absolutely adored, the guy from my youth ministry who was on fire for God, and the one I had met in college who was a campus ministry president, handsome, and loved the Lord. Right from the start, I knew there was something different about the third guy. So I stood back and observed how he treated others, how he treated his mother, how he treated me, and how he behaved in different situations. After years of building a solid friendship, I knew he was a good one, but was he the one for me?
I remember, as I sat on my bedroom floor, I said, “Lord, I don’t want to marry the wrong guy and be miserable. I desperately need you to show me if he’s for me!” God didn’t say a word. Instead, He opened my eyes to see the obvious: this guy loved me and I loved him. He never pressured me to have sex before marriage, he never cursed at me, never raised his hand at me, never cheated on me, and never made me feel like anything less than God’s daughter. I wouldn’t have settled for anything less because I know who I am and what I deserve. But to see someone do this for me out of a love for God blessed me to no end.
I married him because God helped me recognize real love.
If you are single ask yourself this, do you know real love when you see it? Real love is the bond that holds a relationship together through anything. That kind of love only comes from the Lord, my sister. It can only be seen when you stand back and observe. Know your worth and don’t settle. Wait for real love.
Prayer: Father God, I thank you for your wisdom. I want real love. Help me understand what it is. Help me not be blinded by sexual desires or by what someone can do for me. Help me wait until you bless me with the one you have waiting for me. Open my eyes to see real love when he comes my way. Show me who I am and my worth. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
(Read James 1:17; Hebrews 10:36)