“But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ…” Ephesians 4:15
I would often ask my husband, “How do I say it?” “How do I tell them the truth?” To which he would say, “Just say it.” He made it sound so simple, but for me it was very difficult. The truth we have stored away in our hearts can be the very thing that can set someone free. Knowing how to tell someone that you feel their addiction is destroying them and that you want to see them live a long blessed life takes love to share. Knowing someone’s character flaw could potentially ruin their marriage takes love to reveal. Sometimes we think, “Why even bother. They already know.” While it is true that most people know what’s wrong in their lives, God tells us to speak the truth in love because it is the truth that will help them grow. It also communicates that you care. God loves us enough to accept us as we are, but He also loves us enough to not let us stay as we are. So He gave us His Word, His Spirit and our brothers and sisters in Christ to help us grow and mature in Him. To hold back the truth from your sister or brother is not loving them. It hinders them from developing into the person God destined them to be. “Rebuke a wise man”, the Bible says, “and he’ll love you.” At the dinner table in front of everyone isn’t the best time or place to rebuke anyone. We often feel bold when surrounded with people or bold when we are writing an email, but love doesn’t seek to embarrass, belittle or attack others. It doesn’t shrink back in fear. Love is faith in action. So sharpen those in your life one on one and face to face because you love them and want to see them succeed. How they receive it is between them and the Lord, but at least you obeyed God and spoke the truth in love.
Prayer: Father God, thank You for accepting me as I am, but loving me enough not to let me remain as I am. Help me grow through Your truth. Help me learn how to speak the truth in love without fear. Fill my heart with love so my loved ones will sense the love when I speak to them what You’ve instructed me to share. And even when they don’t receive it well, help me continue to love them and pray for them. In Jesus name, Amen.
(Read Proverbs 9:8)