“Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.” (Matthew 11:29)
What does self-centeredness look like? A self-centered person cares more about themselves and less about others. They are consumed with their own thoughts, desires, ambitions, hurts and pains. When they are sick they can become offended when no one shows any concern for them. When problems arise, they look outward at others instead of inward. The plans and goals of their spouse often take a backseat to their own plans and goals. When they are in the middle of completing a task, it is extremely difficult for them to break away and focus on the needs of others. I didn’t realize I had an issue with self-centeredness until one day while in the middle of a heated discussion with my husband, he shared with me that I was self-centered. Upon hearing that, I instantly became emotional, defensive and denied this terrible charge to my character. Months later, the Holy Spirit began to reveal to me that my husband was indeed right. When God reveals truth to us, it’s never to embarrass or shame us. He intensely loves us and wants us to grow and develop in Christ-like character. The truth is always for our benefit and never our hurt. Removing ungodly character traits and instilling godly character in our lives takes time and practice. When it comes to any character flaw, the first thing we must do is admit that we have a problem. The second thing is to make a quality decision to change. And third, we must discover what God’s Word says about it and begin to put it into practice with His help. We have to purposefully say to ourselves, “How can I show others that I am thinking about them and not just myself? Whose problems have I ignored today? What can I learn from others and let them teach me? What can I do today to help someone else achieve their goals? Who can I devote more prayer time for rather than praying only for myself? Asking ourselves these questions on a regular basis will help bring us to a point of operating in the mind of Christ. If Christ lives in us we must begin to walk as He walked. Learning to be selfless is without a doubt the greatest gift we can give our spouse, our children, our friends, our church, our workplace and ourselves. It is a powerful witness of the love of Jesus and the heart of the Father.
Prayer: Father God, thank You. You sure know how to love me and challenge me at the same time. I denounce every bit of self-centeredness in my life and I receive the selfless mind of Christ. I want to be pleasing in your sight. I pray You help me focus on the needs of those around me rather than being consumed with my own needs. Help work this godly character trait in me Lord and help me walk it out in my daily life. In the Name of Jesus, Amen.