David therefore departed from there and escaped to the cave of Adullam. So when his brothers and all his father’s house heard it, they went down there to him. 2 And everyone who was in distress, everyone who was in debt, and everyone who was discontented gathered to him. So he became captain over them. And there were about four hundred men with him. (1 Samuel 22:1–2 KJV).
For many people, the holidays draw up painful memories. Sore spots from childhood or the loss of loved ones hit hard during this sentimental season. During one of the most desperate times of King David’s life, the anointed future king of Israel found himself running from two separate enemies—hardly a time to celebrate. With the Philistines to the west and King Saul to the east, a distressed David sought refuge in the cave of Adullam
David felt very alone.
His situation offers encouragement to us during lonely holidays.
David Let it All Out to God
He expressed how he felt in the form of a prayer: “For there is no one who regards me. . . . No one cares for my soul” (Psalm 142:4).
But David also said, When my spirit was overwhelmed within me, You knew my path. (Psalm 142:3)
In Hebrew, the word You is emphatic, meaning only God truly understood David’s pain. From the depths of the cave where he hid, David cried aloud, “You are my refuge” (Psalm 142:5).
David’s words illustrate the tension between anguish of soul and dependence on God.
Our desperate aloneness often feels like a prison—as it did to David. Desperate thoughts and actions often follow. But when we feel overwhelmed and lonely, we can remember that the Lord is present and is “intimately acquainted with all [our] ways” (Psalm 139:3).
Regardless of how lonely we feel, God promises He has not left us alone. He never will.
David models for us that the lonely holidays—and any seasons of loneliness—are the times to reaffirm what we know to be true, in spite of what we feel is true. When we feel alone—and I mean really, really alone—we must cling to the Lord’s promises:
- God will never abandon you. He will never fail you. He will never forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:8; Matthew 28:20; John 14:18).
- By removing everything but Himself, the Lord may be teaching you a truth David affirmed: “You are all I really want in life” (Psalm 142:5 NLT).
- Lonely times are times to seek refuge in God through prayer. They’re not the times to seek the world’s solutions.
- Loneliness is God’s call for us to draw near to Him.
What significant truths have you learned in times of loneliness?
Prayer: Dear Father, Thank you for listening to my heart. Your patience with me is to be praised. Today I had that feeling again-The one where I feel so alone. It seems that no one understands… Even my family and friends don’t “get” me at times. I know You said You would never leave me. Your Word promises this and it’s true.Would You help me to sense Your presence in my life? Would You reveal Yourself to me? In a way far beyond my imagination? Thank you for the peace beyond my comprehension- that can only be provided by You. In Jesus’ name, Amen