“As for God, his way is perfect; the word of the Lord is tried: he is buckler to all them that trust in him” 2 Samuel 22:31 (KJV)
People love test driving because it allows you to take that desired hot rod for a spin before you actually buy it. Unfortunately, this model for reassurance has been adapted by non-married couples choosing to live together before marriage. It is not an issue that separates the “saved” from the “unsaved,” but an issue that exists even within the church. With everything we do, good or bad, God looks at our heart. The truth is that the decision to live together as a couple, despite knowing what God’s Word instructs us to do is “fear.” This fear could stem from wanting to keep a potential mate and being willing to bend God’s principles in order to do so. The fear of failure can drive one to “test drive” the idea of marriage because commitment is viewed as a risk too great to take. The fear of not being in control or losing a sense of freedom can drive a lustful desire to obtain “the goods” without accountability to the other person. Regardless, it all stems from the enemy in his pursuit to deceive us and pervert the truth. God gives instructions not to beat us over the head when we don’t get it right, but he gives them because He loves us and wants us to experience His best. “Test driving” before marriage shows a lack of trust in God’s Word and ultimately leads one to settle for a worldly imitation of God’s design that will never satisfy. It will never measure up because Psalm 127:1 tells us that “unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain…” (NIV). Seeking to apply Godly principles within an ungodly foundation invites confusion, heartache and disappointment. That “test drive” can take you down a darkened path you never intended to travel. Though marriages experience trials, the covenant established with God guarantees that you and your spouse are not taking the journey alone. When God is in it, there are no limits and God offers that security when we trust Him with our relationships. Don’t settle for less when God is offering His best. Trust God with everything, knowing that if God said it, it has already been tested and approved.
Prayer: Heavenly Father, I thank you for your design for marriage and that you always offer me your best. Help me to trust you and your Holy Word as it applies to my relationships and all aspects of my life. Give me strength in times of temptation and boldness to stand on your truth. In Jesus’ Name I Pray, Amen.
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