“The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.” James 5:16b (KJV)
When you have fallen in love and been married to someone for many years and then he turns into the devil, you can wonder what happened to your husband. What do you do when the man you once loved now seems like your enemy? To where nothing you do is good enough and his once kind words are now hurtful and belittling? First thing is you must settle in your heart and mind that the man you once loved is still there and hasn’t gone anywhere. Secondly, realize the real enemy behind it all. The devil influences behavior, and just as our faith gives God something to work with, fear gives the enemy something to work with. A man that is afraid of being broke will argue about overspending. A man that is afraid you no longer respect him, will say and do things to try to demand respect. A man that is afraid of getting old will try to look and act like he did when he was in his 30’s. Fear gives the enemy room in our lives to influence what we say and do and if a wife doesn’t know that she will attack the behavior rather than attacking the root of the problem. Since we know the enemy is the problem, you then fight a spiritual enemy in the spirit. You must commit to a life of prayer. This doesn’t mean you pray all loud when he is present, but instead spend time in your secret place where just you and God commune. The God that sees in secret will reward you openly. The word of God also tells us to put on the full armor of God. Any wife fully dressed in her spiritual armor, committed to a life of prayer, and choosing to love will overtime get her loving husband back. Remember, you are not sleeping with the enemy. You are sleeping with your husband and it is the enemy that is influencing him. Deal with the enemy in the spirit while you love your husband. When his behavior gets next to you, take a moment to calm yourself and remember the real enemy behind it all.
Prayer: Father, I pray for strength, wisdom, and patience in dealing with my husband. I know the man I fell in love with is still in there somewhere. And even though his words and actions have hurt me, I forgive him and I go after the real enemy that is influencing him. I bind the enemy now in my husband’s life. I pray Lord that You will open his eyes to your truth and deliver him from fear. As his wife, help me to stay armored up and alert. My trust is in You and I give you glory in advance for what You will do. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
(Read Ephesians 6:12-18; Matthew 6:6, 1 John 4:18; James 5:16)