You can’t force love.

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“Keep me as the apple of your eye; hide me in the shadow of your wings.” Psalms 17:8, NIV.

When it comes to love, you want the kind that comes naturally, not love that is forced. Maybe there’s someone in your life that you love a great deal, but they don’t feel the same way you do and it makes you want to change in order to keep them interested.

The thoughts in your mind may say, “I can make them love me. I can change and become whatever they want me to be. I can change careers, change my hair, get plastic surgery, have their child, leave everything I know and change the way I behave. They will love me; I just have to…” You shouldn’t have to change yourself to get love. If God loves you just how you are, anyone He sends your way will also love you just how you are.

At the heart of real love is acceptance. Anything you have to change to get, you will have to constantly change in order to keep. Love is most beautiful when it is unforced and not manipulated. Let love happen by God’s divine orchestration. Whatever He sends your way He will give you the grace and wisdom to handle. You may not be the apple of someone’s eye just yet, but you are surely the apple of God’s eye. You may not have a David Jonathan kind of friendship just yet, but you have one with God. He loves you in every state and in every season. He took off His priestly garments and wrapped you in robes of righteousness. You will never be able to reach the bottom of God’s love for you!

Until someone can love you even remotely close to that kind of love, honey they don’t deserve you.

Prayer: Father God, thank You for speaking to my heart. I know You love me. Help me know it in a deeper way. Deal with the deeper fears in me and shine your light on every false view I have of myself. I deserve real love and I trust You. In Jesus Name, Amen.

6 thoughts on “You can’t force love.

  1. I read this Devo 3 or 4 years ago Its hard for me to remember but this devo really change my life. Taught me that I can be loved just the way I am. This gave me courage to break up with an unhealthy relationship who then lead me to ananencounter encounter with Jesus

    Now I’m living a life with the certain that I’m loved for who I am and I don’t need to change anything about me. I currently help other girls in my home town like you guys did for me.
    Forever grateful with Jesus and you guys.
    Thanks for let Jesus speak through your Words.

    Greetings from Guatemala

    1. I’ve been dealing with my boyfriend doubting me since I got out of rehab. He has constantly thrown who I used to be in my face and it has led those old feelings of guilt and shame to build up inside me. I realize that he is hurt from my past actions and hesitates to trust me because of them-however I have taken that up with God-I am forgiven and that’s not who I am today so I refuse to answer for those things any longer. I do know that healing relationships takes time so I’m patient with him and continue to prove that he can trust me. I now recognize that the enemy is a thief who comes to lie steal and destroy. He is the master of confusion and chaos. These things are not what God wants for me in my life. As hard as I try to justify my relationship it just leaves me in anxiety, fear, and confusion. Regardless of my past mistakes, I am a child of God. His love is all I need. Thank you for this word today, it surely hits home with me.

  2. A friend shared a devotional with me the that she receives faithfully from another friend & i just shared it with all the ladies in my phone contacts. these are beautiful & powerful ty!

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